Wedding business owner tired of being bombarded with friends and family demanding free photobooths bails on entitled bride’s big day: ‘I had bigger things to deal with than a free Photobooth booking’

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    Friends and Family asking for me to work for them for free - wedding business edition 🫠

    "Friends and Family asking for me to work for them for free"
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    - So a few years back I had a couple of businesses one where I was a virtual assistant doing graphic design, websites, marketing, admin, bookkeeping, photo and video editing, social media, resume writing, recruitment, HR and Ops... the list went on.
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    I also had a weddings and event business, where I had a Photobooth, event hire and a team of photographers, videographers and event planners.
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    I'll start with the weddings and events business: I had so many family and friends reach out to me, wanting my Photobooth for free for birthdays, engagements, weddings, housewarmings.. a up on a Saturday night
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    Originally, I only offered to do digital only (so there wouldn't be any costs for me being the photos to be printed out, just picts posted with my watermark on my social media page - these were the conditions of using it for free).
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    I would use these freebies to trial props, signs, different backdrops etc take photos for social media as well as videos and see what worked and what didn't.
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    Soon after though, it got a bit too popular with friends and family- even getting to the point I had more free bookings than paid and they all thought that digital only just wasn't the same as a regular Photobooth and people REALLY needed the prints to be included.
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    I said sure - if they pay for the paper (which wasn't cheap at all) and they would scoff and say that I should include it at my own cost, I'm a business you can claim it on tax or *small tax business hack gibberish tip here and if I really want a good review or for them to promote my business - I'd provide it.
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    I did end up caving (and they never did end up posting a review or promoted it... ) then people wanted me to remove my watermarks on the photos and if I didn't they would just crop them out themselves - to which I would happily comment on their posts reminding them that this photo was taken by attagbusinessnamehere - then DM them saying as per the terms you agreed and signed please be sure to tag us if it "just so happens" you can't keep the OG size of the photo and you "had" to crop it..
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    If it was the person who "booked" it they would have to fill out paperwork for it and if it was a guest of theirs I would have a BIG sign saying if you take a photo in the booth you agree for it to be shared on my business social media and website, no cropping photos or removing my watermarks.
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    When some friends of friends got married, they would reach out and invite - me out for brunch wanting to catch up only to tell me they are engaged and are planning their engagement and wedding and need advice and the lowdown on all the vendors and who I recommend, who's the cheapest etc.
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    Now, originally I'd give a little bit of my resources away refer a few people I enjoyed working with before, venues that I thought they'd enjoy, then when it came to talk to them about their budgets for what I could offer and provide - only for them to tell me that they've already booked photo, video and event hire ELSEWHERE - just feel free bring along the Photobooth as part of your wedding gift to us (they still wanted us to pay $300-$500 cash as well).
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    The venue is going to set it all up while their sister (who usually was a bridesmaid/MOH) would be their day of coordinator, because why pay me to do something they've already organised?!
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    But I'd usually end up having the brides appointed "planner" find out that I'm a planner/stylist day of or at the hens party or engagement and would wind up handballing it to me, then claiming the credit ofc...
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    Then there are Those that wanted me for my services, told me because they have. family overseas or their budget on XYZ has blown out that they really can't afford to spend any money on someone to help plan for now but they saw my work and would love it if I could help them because they have no idea and they would be just so grateful.
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    Some did barter services, not all but some and ofc I couldn't say no on being g apart of their big day.
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    One wedding I did the styling, planning and coordination, her hens party, organised a surprise video from her family in Europe who couldn't come and edited it and played it at the wedding dinner - I was up nearly 24 hours that day.
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    Another bride/friend of mine I did her wedding AND her hens do and on the lead up to BOTH she would always have meetings planning stationery, seating plans, food (she was vegan), we'd go to IKEA heaps just to get ideas, I'd show her my suppliers products to give her ideas on things to buy.
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    I bought arbours, fabric specifically for her day (which I could use again) and so much more.. her day/s were beautiful this was another very long day as well and all I got were a set of cheese knives for my efforts.
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    My business cards always. disappeared when I tried to leave them out for promo ( :
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    The absolute worst though was a mutual friend of a friend. She was my very first Photobooth booking for pre drinks before a festival when I first started out and the photos from that day were so great I still used them on my socials and website years later.
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    She had her engagement party -
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    She originally messaged me about 6-8 months before her big day and asked me for another freebie, she wanted to do digital only again and whatever I could do to make it free because she just opened her own small business and didn't have much money to spend (which I had helped her set up also - I created the website, forms, booking and appointment stuff which she paid me for and gave me free sessions on top).
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    I agreed since she paid for her other business which was worth way more and gave me some free beauty treatments in return on top.
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    Now When I got kicked out of my martial home by my ab ive ex husband about 4-5 months later I was scrambling to find a place to live, find a lawyer, a full time job to pay for said divorce lawyer all while dealing with my POS ex taunting me and bad mouthing me all over social media and spreading lies and causing me to be sent to hospital multiple times (not a grippy sock vacation - my body shut down due to stress and I stopped eating LOL).
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    Due to my very public humiliation, homelessness, my ex trying to either unalive me or make me unalive myself or di of embarrassment from his posts, stress and the fact I had bigger things to deal with than a free Photobooth booking that I never received any signed forms for, nor even an invitation I had forgotten about it completely.
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    She knew exactly what was going on, saw all the posts my ex made (even commented on a few shocked that I was putting him thru hl and siding with him I later found out!), she knew I had been in hospital, knew I wasn't doing too well but didn't even reach out once to see if I was ok or to touch base on her day.. just "assumed" I'd show up - instead she just messaged me on the day 2 hours BEFORE asking where TF I was to set up.
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    Now, admittedly - I feel a little bit bad about missing this, however after co id I wasn't trying to get a lot of bookings. and didn't have any but hers on the books anyways.
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    She never sent back the forms, despite following up twice and getting empty promises and after being kicked out and left on the streets I was dealing with a lot and just wasn't coping and paperwork for a free gig wasn't top of my list of things.
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    Our mutual friend who was very supportive had told her what was going on and told her not to expect me to come let alone bring the Photobooth because I wasn't doing well in between working 3 different jobs, running the businesses, being in an out of hospital because I wasn't able to eat without vomiting or pain and my body was shutting down,
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    fighting my demons while being publicly humiliated on social media by my ex who was feeding everyone lies. and trying to ruin what little life I had left.
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    What do you think? Entitled? Or did she have grounds?
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    Anyways - These are just a few of my weddings and events stories and they don't even mention the "professional, networking, charity events OR random strangers who were itching for freebies either!
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    I'll post those later tonight and maybe I'll post my VA stories for you too..

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